“Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.“James Dean
I have been thinking about death lately. It’s okay, I do not want to die, at least, not today. I am not eager to die, but I know it is inevitable and can happen at any time.
This winter has been bearing down on me. Not the winter itself, but happenings. I recently witnessed a life being taken and it has weighed me down. You can read about it here: https://medium.com/@lindalatt/how-do-i-stop-the-anguish-grief-and-denial-and-the-visions-that-keep-playing-in-my-head-6eb6c5f9652e
I have not been able to escape the sadness of that experience.
What is worse though is watching my husband being ever so slowly taken down by COPD. He has been sick this week afflicted with pain, not able to eat, and less able to function. It has been excruciating for him, and for me as I stand by not knowing how to help or how to cope for us both.
So, yes, death is on my mind.
When I think of death, I also think of life. That is why thinking about death is okay.
There are benefits to thinking about death.
“Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.“~ Pope Paul VI
We are limited in our time. We come with an expiration date, we just do not know what it is. That is why we should be mindful of how we spend our time, each and every moment of it. Our time is precious.
When we are young it feels like we have years spreading out before us to do everything that we want, or feel we need, to do. Sure, that may be true for many of us, but not guaranteed.
For me, since I am older, I do not foresee as many years. My life span is shortening so I do not have as many expectations. BUT that fact motivates me to do more now before the door slams shut.
So thinking about death is a motivator. It is not gruesome to be aware that we have a limited time. We should be aware and we should push ourselves a bit harder to do those things we care about.
“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.“Eleanor Roosevelt
We all have the tendency not to talk about death. It makes us uncomfortable. Maybe it would be better if we did talk about it.
We leave a lot of unspoken thoughts and feelings behind us. If we talked about death, and how it makes us feel, would it be easier for those we leave behind? I think it would be better for everyone.
You would know you shared your important moments, thoughts and beliefs. They would have the comfort of knowing those truths, knowing your thoughts, and not be left questioning the unknown.
How many times have you started to ask a parent or a good friend something you really want to know but did not because you thought that you did not have enough time, and decided you would ask the next time.
Take the time because you may never have another opportunity to ask. You will always wish you knew the answer.
If we knew we were dying tomorrow would we spend time worrying about the the little things that bother us. You know, all the small stuff.
We all have small stuff, the things that irritate us, like my old age wrinkles or the way my husbands hearing makes it seem like he is not paying attention. In the scheme of things it doesn’t matter. We are both still here wrinkles and all.
“Every day, it’s important to ask and answer these questions: “What’s good in my life?” and What needs to be done?”~ Nathaniel Branden
Each morning I wake up and tell myself it is going to be a good day. I appreciate the fact that I am here and I have the opportunity to enjoy the day.
Growing older has allowed me to slow down and appreciate life more. I know I do not have as much time. My days here are more limited and I appreciate the message old age sends me each day.
My approach to each day is somewhat different than when I was younger, but everyone’s approach should be more mindful. Would your approach to the days events change if you knew you had a limited amount of time left to live? That is how we should approach each day.
Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.”Danny Kaye
So contemplate death, your own and the ones in your life you love and cherish. No need to be morbid, just be mindful. Appreciate each moment you have. Slow down, think, feel and cherish.
What color paint are you going to throw on your canvas today?
As always, thank you so much for reading my blog.